Hi;
There's probably more people like you and me out there than anyone will ever
know.  I've been married a lot longer than you, and have daughters and
grandchildren.  If you are like me, this TG/TS thing will never go away.

I've decided to just get castrated, and maybe go on a small amount of
estrogen to eliminate the hot flashes and cold sweats.  If I get feminized -
fantastic!  - I too would like to improve my looks.  As far a dressing like
a woman, I wear women's boot jeans, shorts and T-Tops.  I wear them because
they fit my shape better.  (My tummy to hip ratio is female.)  I've already
started on electrolysis.  This has really helped my self esteem.

I should point out that my wife and daughter go along with the castration.
I mean - I'll just shoot blanks after that, right!   What they don't know is
that I will be looking at complete nullification later.  It may or may not
ever become reality.  (By the way, at my age, I don't need or want a
vagina.)

I guess this means that I'm transgendered and not a true transsexual.
However, complete transition would be great.  But with the wife and family
to think about, It will never happen.  I probably could never pass anyway.

Just hang in there and take one step at a time.  Things will fall into
place.
--

Rebecca
rebecca.x@home.com


<.> wrote in message news:394b6028.11488831@nntp.mindspring.com...
> Hello,
>
> Just started HRT. Self medicating out of NZ and GR. Im not sure how
> far I will take this. Now before the lecture's come flying in, I am an
> Adult and move forward at my own risk. I do not wish to full
> transition in as much that I desire to feminise. My real desire would
> be to be to possess best attributes of both sexes. Before you ask, I
> would prefer not to hash over the reasons why I have taken this
> course. Just sufice it to say, I do not make decisions rashly or
> without great research and care. That's my story and I'm sticking to
> it! :)
>
> My question is this. I've read many postings regarding telling your SO
> of the desire to transition. But all of the accounts are people who
> have appeared to be in non-married relationships or they started HRT
> after their marriage broke up. Or their spouse new about it before
> they were married so it was part of the pre-marriage package. However,
> I have yet to read a posting with somebody in my position who has kids
> and a spouse who doesn't even suspect.
>
> I would like to hear from anyone who told their spouse after they
> started and how they approached it. What was there reaction? How did
> you feel? etc. etc.
>
> Outside of my little situation we are otherwise happy. Before you ask,
> I do not wish to hash over
>
> BTW. My spouse is not exactly a forward thinker and is the type that
> easily blushes at the mention of sexual inuendos. I cannot conceive of
> how my spouse would react. I am not sure I will tell right away. Has
> anybody in a similiar position done this and what happened when you
> did?
>
> Thanks